Dear Sis, 1st Wave of a Break-Up!
Somebody once told me that breakups come in waves, they also said that each break up gets easier and easier, you merely at some point just live through them. If that individual was sitting next to me I would slap them. Easier and Easier my left cheek! To me it get worst, the timing process seems longer, my grey hairs multiply. But, I will say that my spy/stalker tendancies get a more and more advanced with every breakup
We as women hate the fact of having to start over. Having to sort through the muck again, the many dates (well wait that’s free food), the learning of a new persons everything, the reintroduction to friends and family. But, we enjoy having a stable partner, someone who can break your back if your into that, picnics in the park with your boo, cuddling in be on cold nights, getting your passport stamped together! That is why we continue the cycle over and over after every break up! Some of us thought, after that one bad one, we settle into our TRACEE ELLIS ROSS ministry, and get our own happiness, glow on our own, and be content and happy with just ME! That part, you see that part, is actaully a great thing, we want to eventually all get there, with our without a man. Butttttttttt, let’t not jump the gun, we are still on the first wave, the cut is still fresh.
What is the 1st wave you ask?
Welp, I’ll tell ya! The first wave of a break up is usually the sad stage. Lots of crying, lots of re-watching of love and basketball, love jones, harriet the spy (don’t judge, we all have our favs). This is the time, where you feel betrayed, hurt, you blame yourself. Some cases you start begging him or her for another chance. You start to realize all the things they did for you around the house, Ice cream becomes your best friend, chocolate is glued to your chin! The first wave of emotions always leaves you feeling like why me, why does this always happen too me, I will never find a man, I will be alone for life!
While still riding wave one, you start searching for answers as to why this happened. Did I have to much of an attitude? Was I too needy? When he/she said this, was that a sign of things to come? Could I have handled that differently? You run down everything that happened in that relationship tta you of course could remember to yourself, family, friends and co-workers, maybe they can give you some clarity!
The first wave is really an emotional rollercoaster. You sometimes get why it may have happened or you just need the answers and rack your brain into exhaustion. Either way the break up has happened and unless you have a time machine, you still left feeling alone!